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How to Attact a Guy


How to Attact a Guy
Naturally and Authentically

What a universal question, and well deserving of great answers. Nevertheless, before becoming overly absorbed in the question of how to attract men, try spending time focusing on what you want in a man – the type of partner you wish to bring along on your adventure in this lifetime . . . his qualities, personality, his focus, etc. Be as specific as possible and write it down.

And, before even thinking along the lines of “who can I attract?”, take the time (however long) to know your “Who.” Your “Who” consists of all those experiences you’ve lived through, your environment, your ideas and beliefs. They all interweave to form that one dynamic individual – you.

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Get to know yourself, your requirements, needs and wants. If your goal is attracting the man of your dreams, at least know from the start what those dreams are and have a plan for manifesting them. Keep a notebook and begin jotting down everything you know that goes into making you “Who” you are. Again, be specific. Believe it or not, once you’re in sync with the Universe and have an idea of what you want and how to get it, things seem to “magically” fall into place.

Self Esteem

Self esteem (or the lack thereof) plays a huge role in not only how to attract men, but how to attract anybody or anything. And, unfortunately, the older women become without having attracted an ideal mate, the less likely they feel they’ll ever have someone special to share their lives with.

Women begin to adopt a “lack” syndrome, and feel their personal attraction is shot, they’re not as alluring as they were when younger and far less likely to experience the joy of partnership. I hate to sound repetitive, but again, take the time to cozy up to your “Who.” Know your little “Who-Princess” inside out. If there are issues that need rooting out, now is the time to do it before you meet someone and those unconscious issues reach from seemingly out of nowhere and sabotage a promising relationship.


As much as a number of us would love to look like Angelina Jolie, Halle Berry, Beyonce or Kate Moss, it’s not going to happen. So, accordingly, show up as yourself in all your glory. As the saying goes, “Do You.” Until you’re comfortable being you, warts and all, you won’t be much of a partner even if Prince Charming were to walk into your life this very moment. Develop your own style, your own look. It doesn’t take very long for people to spot a phony.

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The “L” word. Men being men, love “shiny balls,” women who tend to stand out in one way or another. There is something downright unappealing about “drab and frumpy.” If you want to learn how to attract men, look your best - always in public. Your best isn’t my best, nor my neighbor’s best. Your best is unique to you. Do You! -- not Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Aniston, Beyonce, et al.

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