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3 Ways To Make This The Best Year Ever

3 Ways To Make This The Best Year Ever
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Got dreams? 3 tips on how to achieve your personal goals and make lasting changes.

Springtime is all about transformation and growth. As the days get longer and weather warmer, many of us look at the second part of the year and ask: What do I want for myself? What do I want to change? What do I want to achieve? You have important dreams. Here are 3 practical tips to to help you reach your goals:

  • Envision the future. The more emotionally attached you are to your dream, the more likely you are to get there. Close your eyes, and think about what it would look like, sound like and most importantly feel like to achieve your goal. Say you want to update your backyard. Imagine yourself sipping your morning coffee on your new deck. You see the sparrows on your bird feeder. You hear the soothing sounds of your water feature. And you feel…. zenned out. Allowing yourself to imagine the ideal future feels good and it gets your brain to say,“I really, REALLY want that! Let’s make it happen!” 
  • Recruit a friend. We’re social beings. It’s often a lot easier to achieve something when we’ve got company. If every year you say you want to learn golf, but never do, find a buddy to take lessons with you. Being “in it” with others increases your commitment level to the goal. Someone else is now holding you accountable to make the effort. And they’re counting on you to hold them accountable, too. 
  • Acknowledge barriers. There are good reasons change is hard, even when you are committed. You want to save money for a second home, but spend a lot on eating out. Week after week, you eat out, and you're no closer to your dream. Ask yourself: What about my behavior is working for me, but against my goal? Maybe you’re not comfortable cooking? Do you use dinner as as way to conduct business? Once you identify the behavior holding you back, you clear the way for change.

Margaret Billy Quandt is a leadership coach and consultant at Metro & Wythe LeadershipContact her for information about the transformative power of coaching.