He Did What?!!

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He Did What?!!
5 things men (and some women) do knowingly or unknowingly that can cause serious relationship issues

We all have our idosyncricies and share of odd behaviors.  I know there are many things that women do which aggravate men to no end.  Well, it goes the other way too.  Here are few examples of things that may get you kicked out of your love shack or put in the dog house at some point without a warning. 

First, let me explain a few things about women.  We are communicators.  We are the glue that holds families, countries, communities together, by talking about any and everything.  This communication allows us to connect and create larger families, i.e. communities.  I am not saying that ALL women do this, nor am I saying that NO men do this.  These points can probably be used by both, but I have noticed them more often in men. This is a sociological generalization I am using for the sake of making my points in this article. 

Back to the cave. (OMG - seriously, does every article go back to cave (wo)man days? Haven't we evolved past that? No. Sorry. Not so much.) Women, the gatherers, stayed near the cave, picking the berries and other things, birthing children, working together. This was also social.  They would work together to raise children, and learn from one another. They could talk while gathering, and create bonds for themselves and the children. 

Men, since cave days, have only needed to strategize, then hunt.  Let’s talk about a plan, then silently go and kill the food.  They stalk, watch, wait and kill.  They had to be silent, and it did not matter how they felt about killing or anything else.  It was survival.
We have evolved past those days.  Right?

5. Not returning a text, call or email.
“I was busy” is a common answer to this new age dilemma. Ah.  Guess what?  We are all busy in this age of continuous sensory bombardment and one-upping. 

“What is so awful about being too busy?’” he asks.

Men are single minded creatures who create a plan and execute it.  While executing the plan, they can be very single minded.  Did I mention that many men can be single minded when tasking?  (This is not a bad thng, so do not get upset.  It allows for great follow - through.)

As I stated earlier, women are communicators.  Texts, phone calls, emails, FaceTime are all ways to check in and connect when you are unable to really connect in person.  When you receive these tokens of wanting to connect from women (or partners) and do not respond, it sends a message you may not intend.  It can become become a multitude of different ideas in her head.  Here are a few of them, choose which one you think may fit your relationship and then try asking her if you are right:

Article contributed by

Marcy Goss Garcea

Life Coach

Marcy Garcea

(630) 918-4000

Truth Beauty Joy

marcy.garcea@gmail.com

 

Location: Palatine, IL
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