He has betrayed you in the worst way possible – he had an affair. While cheating on you may make you feel like there is no way that he loves you, it’s not always that clean cut. Men cheat for many reasons and most of the time, it’s not because they don’t love their partners.
When you hear him say, “Please don’t leave me, I really do love you.” take into account some of the signs that he may still love you even though he cheated.
Sign #1: He Stops the Affair
Knowing that you are about to leave him scares him so much that he stops the affair immediately. He doesn’t want to lose you because you really are the one that he loves.
Sign #2: He Promises to Do Anything
It can be difficult for men to lay everything down on the line to win your heart back. If he truly breaks down and tells you that he will do absolutely anything to have you back, you may have someone who truly does love you.
Sign #3: He Seeks Professional Help
He wants to know why he had the affair and hurt the one person he loves the most. To do this, he seeks counseling to help uncover the mystery and show you that he is serious in that he didn’t cheat because he doesn’t love you.
Sign #4: He Tells People About His Mistake
Men don’t want to admit to their mistakes so if he tells everyone how much he has messed up, you know that he is regrets what he has done.
Sign #5: He Follows Through with Promises
If you’ve told him that he must do a list of things to show you that he is truly still in love with you and he does everything you have asked, you know that he is committed to you and only you now.
It can be hard to believe that he didn’t cheat on you to hurt you because you are so hurt. It’s true though that some men don’t think about their significant others when they are having an affair. It may not make any sense to you and it may make you want to run far away from him so he never hurts you again, but it’s something to consider because he wouldn’t have done everything he has if he truly didn’t want to be with you.
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