Is Ambiguity Holding You Back?

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Is Ambiguity Holding You Back?
If you're not clear about what you want in a relationship, how can the universe deliver one to you?
Imagine that you the pilot of a plane, and you’ve decided to take a trip to New York for the weekend.  You hop into your plane, set the coordinates to your final destination, and away you go.   The plane, having no consciousness of its own, simply obeys the commands you have given it, and goes about delivering you to the place you demanded of it.  Everything is going smoothly as you fly the friendly skies.  But a few hours into the trip, you suddenly change your mind and decide that you really want to go to Miami instead of New York.  So you program the new coordinates into the plane’s control system, and it makes a few adjustments and starts flying in the new direction.  Never mind that you were only 60 miles outside of New York…the plane won’t argue with you, it will simply obey your command.  So here you are, flying South towards Miami…and as you approach the peninsula, you realize what a terrible mistake you made, and that you really and truly want to go to New York.  So you change the coordinates, the plane makes a u-turn, and starts to head North again.  And as you’re heading to New York, you start to wonder if maybe Chicago would be a better place to spend your weekend, and so you tell the plane to go there instead.

Imagine that you the pilot of a plane and you’ve decided to take a trip to New York for the weekend. You hop into your plane, set the coordinates to your final destination, and away you go. The plane, having no consciousness of its own, simply obeys the commands you have given it and goes about delivering you to the place.  Everything is going smoothly as you fly the friendly skies, but a few hours into the trip you suddenly change your mind and decide that you really want to go to Miami instead of New York.  So you program the new coordinates into the plane's control system, and it makes a few adjustments and starts flying in the new direction. Never mind that you were only 60 miles outside of New York…the plane won't argue with you, it will simply obey your command. So here you are, flying south towards Miami…and as you approach the peninsula you realize what a terrible mistake you made, and that you truly want to go to New York.  So you change the coordinates again, the plane makes a u-turn, and starts to head North again. As you’re heading to New York, you start to wonder if maybe Chicago would be a better place to spend your weekend, and so you tell the plane to go there instead.

This is how ambiguity works. The Universe wants to give you want you want — be it money, health, a relationship, whatever. Here’s the caveat…we have to be clear on what we want. Like the plane, the Universe will simply deliver us to whatever final destination we have told it to. If we change our minds along the way, then that’s just fine…the Universe will adjust and start to head in that new direction. Imagine doing this over and over again, always changing our minds before reaching that destination. Then we'll never reach our destination, the universe is never given a chance to deliever us to our destination no matter how close we actually were. 

We are plagued with ambiguity in many aspects of our lives. We are ambiguous about our jobs (sometimes I love my job and sometimes I hate my job), our money (sometimes I feel wealthy and sometimes I feel poor), and our relationships (sometimes I want to be single and sometimes I want a boyfriend). We never get what we really want because we don’t know what that is.  We make a decision, allow the Universe to bring it to us…but just as it's finally close, we change our minds and repel it away. Then we get frustrated and wonder why we never get what we want. Had we stayed our original course, we would be at that destination already, enjoying the fruits that it bears. Instead, we are stuck in limbo just bouncing between two destinations but never reaching any of them.

Be resolved in your destination decision.  Take the time to clarify what you really want and where you really want to go. Your plane will take you there when you're ready, so there's no rush. It’s better to be clear about your final destination before you jump into the cockpit and fly off into the sky.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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