This is a very different model than the culture in which I was raised.
I've also learned the importance of having a dating vision. Unlike back in my twenties, it doesn't mean making sure I have a date every weekend. It doesn't mean feeling anxious because I don't have a date. I have a rich and full life as a single woman. I'm comfortable with being alone and I also enjoy socializing. My vision of dating this second-time around is about enjoying the journey of meeting new people with shared values and eventually, meeting a gentleman who I can't imagine living without.
Mandy Walker is a divorce writer, coach and mentor at Since My Divorce, the divorce support blog. You can download her workbook, Visioning Your Life After Divorce for free when you subscribe for email updates.