Sexuality is very important because it is our basic instinctual life force energy. We need to own it and embrace it and then that same energy can start moving through our whole body and our whole being. So essentially, we are moving on a journey which begins with sex and moves through 6 more doors of power and potential.
3) our soul calling
4) love and compassion
6) expanded consciousness and intuition
7) orgasmic oneness with the whole
There is a saying in Tantra that sex and super-consciousness are one. There is also a very lovely symbol which is used to describe the Tantra journey, the lotus.
The lotus has its roots deep in the mud on the bottom of the lake and from there it can start growing upward. On the surface of the lake it appears as an exquisite open lotus flower, but if there were no mud there would be no lotus. This symbolism reveals to us that if we don’t accept our sexual energy, the mud of our being, we cannot hope to have a lotus of consciousness opening in us.
We really need to embrace sexuality and nourish it and then our spirituality will grow. So how do we nourish it? We nourish it by bringing loving awareness to it. For that reason, if we practise Tantra meditations which use sexuality, we will create a sacred space, a divine ambience – very lovingly and with a lot of attentiveness to detail on how we create our space, how we create our sacred time and then we devote ourselves to a certain practice, bringing the light of awareness into sexuality and relating.
There are many suggestions for how to do this in my book Divine Sexuality, or you can buy one of my meditation CDs. Try it with a lover, making sure to create a special time and space for you to do the practise without being disturbed - including turning off mobile phones!