Today is the day where it seems everywhere you go, there are happy couples enjoying their togetherness, all loved up and carefree. Hearts cover the windows of pubs, cafes, restaurants, shops, and even your local supermarket has joined in the Valentine extravaganza. You can't go ...
Have you ever entered in to an agreement with someone and left feeling that you gave more than the other person? Perhaps you've found yourself giving away much more than you receive in a relationship, and subsequently feel like there is a lack of Read More
What's the biggest mistake singles make when it comes to dating?
Tara Kachaturoff, Editor, Relationship Coaching Institute
Maeve responds …
The biggest mistake singles make when it comes to dating is not being themselves. This is a problem because while you are getting to ...
Several years ago I was in a very sad and lonely place. I had just broken up with someone I thought I was meant to marry. We spent many months after the break up wondering what went wrong and neither of us could figure it out. We believed we were meant to be together, however, it didn't work out ...
I was approached to work with a young single mum who had recently broken up with someone. The man she had invested several months in trying to develop a relationship with had shown in many ways that he was only involved with her for one reason. Although she had wanted more from the relationship and tried to discuss this with him each time they met, on his terms, the conversation was re-directed to the bedroom.
During the courtship, the young woman had become very insecure and searched for answers from everyone who knew her. Unable to find the solution to her problem, she called me. We talked over the phone for a period of weeks and unravelled the underlying cause of her distress. After several weeks of soul searching she was able to find the courage to call a halt to this unhealthy situation. We continued to talk during the next year as there was a considerable amount of work to do for her to become ready for a committed relationship. This involved getting to know herself and creating a vision for her life. Towards the end of the year she had grown so much and realised what she wanted in a relationship. We continued to talk and meet on a monthly basis as she needed me to provide ongoing support while she navigated her next relationship. Once she felt sufficiently comfortable within the relationship and had been able to negotiate the terms of the relationship with her new man, we spoke less and less until she felt confident enough to go it alone.
A client who had previously always rushed into a new relationship thinking right from the beginning "this is the one" experienced some doubt about they way in which she viewed relationships. During a long period of one to one coaching, she began to realise what her pattern had been. She made a decision to think things through carefully when meeting new dates. Her dating pattern changed and she began to screen dates according to what she said she wanted right from the beginning. Her requirements were to be in a committed, healthy long term relationship with a man who was faithful, financially independant, owned his own house and was prepared to take things slowly with her to ensure they had the time to really get to know each other before making any decisions about the future of the relationship. After three or four months seeing a few potentials, she made a decision to spend more time with one. He showed that he met all the requirements and now she is experiencing a period of testing. They are still taking it slowly and learning about what each other wants in a long term relationship.