Valentine's Day, Bah Humbug!


Valentine's Day, Bah Humbug!
Being single on Valentine's Day is an opportunity. Here are a few ideas for how you can enjoy it!

Valentines Day...Again!

Today is the day where it seems everywhere you go, there are happy couples enjoying their togetherness, all loved up and carefree. Hearts cover the windows of pubs, cafes, restaurants, shops, and even your local supermarket has joined in the Valentine extravaganza. You can't go anywhere without the reminder that once again, you're single on Valentines Day!


How does that make you feel?

If you're single and you'd like to be with someone, but you feel like you're not getting anywhere, take solace in knowing that not all the couples you see are actually enjoying themselves. As a single person, you have the perfect opportunity to spend time doing things you really want to do.  This is your time to truly get to know and love yourself and find out who you are and what you want more than anything in life. 

When you are clear on what you want for your life, and declare it with such clarity and conviction, you begin a snowball of activation that sets the Universe into action.  The key for you is to take insipred action, even if it's only a small thing each day. One small thing each day is better than nothing for a long time and then a big effort once a year. It's like exercise, a little bit of exercise every day is better than huge amounts every now and again. A little action taken every day towards your dreams will eventually get you to where you want to go.

Here's a writing exercise you can do to help gain clarity on what you really want:

Writing by hand will help you get the most out of doing this exercise. On a new page in your journal write the following questions. Take a moment to connect with your higher self by taking in a few deep breaths and relaxing.  When you ask the question, listen for the answer, which will come in a small, soft, gentle and loving voice. When you hear the answer trust it and write it down.  Keep writing until you feel a sense of completion.  Do the same for each question. 

  • What do you want?
  • What are you willing to do each day to make it happen?
  • What doubts do you have about having what you want?
  • What help do you need to achieve this?


Some inspiration to help you to take action

"The Universe positively responds to action that you take related to your dream. Each time you take an action step, beautiful sparks shower the universe...sparks of faith, trust, confidence and crystal clear intentions. These sparks have a life force which creates new life."  Doreen Virtue

An idea for how to enjoy Valentines Day

My suggestion to you is that you do something to move yourself towards your dream of being in a loving relationship. That doesn't necessarily mean going on a date. Doing something fun with friends is taking action and will set off these sparks of intention!

Plan and enjoy a night out with your single friends. Book a table in a nice restaurant, go dancing, maybe even go bowling, whatever you enjoy, go and do it! There is no point in bemoaning being single. Those couples you see, don't assume they’re enjoying themselves. You're single, being single offers you a great opportunity to really get to know and love yourself and discover what you want for your life. So enjoy it, embrace it, and have some fun!

Key Points:

Being single is an opportunity.

Doing something each day will move you closer to your dreams.

Writing down what you want will help you gain clarity and inspire you to take action.

Organise a night out with your single friends and have some fun!

To hear more tips on how to enjoy Valentines Day, visit my website and listen to the Valentines Message for Singles and Couples with Marian Meade and I.

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Maeve Crawford

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