There are three ways in which we can actively monitor ourselves so that we may change how we interact with our surroundings:
(1) Thoughts (cognitions)
(2) Feelings (emotions)
(3) Actions (behaviors)
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When you are in traditional counseling sessions--the counselor uses a variety of theories that typically focus on one of these areas to help you make changes in your life. In the best case scenario the theory that the counselor is using is based on their training background/when they received their masters degree, as well as what the current trend is based upon research on the effectiveness of the theories in actual practice. However, we won't delve too deeply into theories and understanding methodology, because this site is educational and for you to understand more of how you work. [I have my masters in counselor education, however I am practicing as a coach. As I coach I ask questions and provide you accountability when you are choosing how you want to change. The answer lies within.]
People that are aware that they can use their feelings and thoughts to influence their actions are able to control what happens to them. Novel idea? This is because they recognize that they can influence their outcomes based on identifying the emotions they are feeling, then choosing what thoughts they would like to focus on, and then putting it in to action.