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Are You In Pursuit Of Happiness? Sorry, Technology WON'T Help You

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Mindful Ideas On Easy Ways To Get And Stay Happy

Happiness is a form of courage. ~ Holbrook Jackson

Last night was family game night, and as my husband dealt the much worn Sorry cards out, my teenage son stated, “I couldn’t wait to get home to play Sorry today.” That was the ordinary moment that rocked the world.

We are a nation of overcomplicators. “It can’t be worthwhile if it’s cheap, or easy or even ordinary.” We have all we need at our disposal for free.

We have the ability to pay attention. Paying attention to the smile of our newborn baby, the gentle squeeze of our husband of 20 years, the friend that boldly reached out to us in our toughest of moments, or even to the inner workings of a 14 year old can instantly bring a smile of satisfaction to any face.

I enjoy going to Disney as much as the next person, but realistically, I can only go to Disney once a year. I can enjoy an ordinary moment every time I walk in the door, and my dog wags her tail.

The present moment has everything we need. Our devices can be as alluring as the siren calling the sailor to the sea. Phones, tablets, laptops and televisions are not replacements for relationships. In our lives, they serve a purpose and part of the purpose can be entertainment.

We shouldn’t confuse entertainment with happiness, however. When I laugh at the meme or the people at Walmart (and I do, wildly), it is a moment I will probably not return to again.

When I smile or laugh at the silly thing my husband or my son is doing to cheer me up, my heart will always return to that feeling. There is no replacement for people and the relationships of our heart.

I always tell my clients we weren’t placed on this planet on a deserted island for a reason. We need each other in a true, biological and interdependent way. We thrive in connection with one another.

I have never been disappointed when I have taken the moment to reach out to an old friend over the phone or email. The response is always joy and desire to reciprocate the good feelings of connection.

Carving out time for one another is the best thing we can do when we consider how to achieve and maintain happiness. Overwhelming joy is hard to achieve when we are scrolling our Facebook feed.

Connection is the ultimate antidepressant, and it’s available to us for free if we’re willing to take the risk.

When we take the time to care for ourselves, whether that be through exercise or prayer, good nutrition or proper sleep, we make an investment not only in our body, but also in our mood as well.

We are more able to pay attention when we’ve slept well and better partners in relationship when we are properly fed. And when we get quiet spiritually the whole world makes a lot more sense.

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.


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