Expert Blog Compelling advice, stories, and thought-provoking perspectives straight from YourTango's lineup of Experts to you

What Having A Passionate Relationship REALLY Looks Like

Photo: weheartit
passionate relationships
Love

People can really grow on you and it takes time for that to happen.

There are many people who believe passion doesn't go past the "honeymoon phase", that it only lasts for a certain amount of time. Many don't consider a passionate relationship to be a "real" relationship. Well, they're wrong!

Often times, passion is mistaken for infatuation, which sizzles out! But passion is what keeps the relationship alive! The flame, if you will. 

If you find yourself in many passionate relationships that have a tendency to burn out quickly, you may be in love with the process of falling in love — and not necessarily in love with your partner.

Slow the relationship down, be realistic, and try to fall in love with their every aspect. Figure out their quirks, pet peeves, and personal opinions. Find out how they were raised and what their parents are like. See if they are truly right for you as a person and romantically compatible with you.

We should seek passionate love in our relationships. If you go on a first date with someone and it was pretty average, try meeting at least two more times before deciding that they’re not right for you.

via GIPHY

People can really grow on you and it takes time for that to happen. Once you get to know a person, you may discover that you are really attracted to them! That, my friends, is the first step towards passion. You'll find that your passion for them derives on what you know and appreciate about them.

Take me for example. While on our first date, I thought my husband was nice. But, he was also a bit nerdy. I decided to go on a few more dates with him and slowly, I developed an attraction for him.

The reason I fell in love with him had nothing to do with trivial aspects, like physical attraction. I loved him for him! Now we're happily married and have an extremely passionate relationship!

Think about your past exes. Why didn't things work out? Was there a pattern?

Learn from your mistakes and your next relationship will be an improvement. Don’t get carried away with the first few lustful stages of the relationship and give up once that initial excitement is over. That's infatuation — and it always fades.

via GIPHY

The intensity of the relationship will eventually fall out after a brief period of time and you'll be left feeling empty inside. When you fall in love and really get to know your partner, you will find that time is the gateway towards a real passionate relationship.

A passionate relationship does not mean there needs to be firecrackers and excitement all of the time; it simply means keeping the fire ignited.

The key to having a passionate relationship is taking a deeper look at the little things. Take things slowly and you'll be able to gradually reach long-term relationship milestones.

Author
Expert