It truly is all about the size — but, not in the way that you might think. It is time to take a stand regarding penis size.
Frankly, a large penis doesn't make a man a great kisser, fill him with passion, nor guarantee that he is a remotely competent lover. It is the way a man places his hand on the small of his lover's back. It is the way his warm breath feels against your soft neck. It is the words whispered in an awaiting ear.
These are the conversations we should be having with our Lovers. The conversations we should be having with our friends. The conversations we should be having with our teenage sons. It is well established, yet highly ignored, that the largest sex organ we have is our brain. The irony isn't lost on us that the brain is also bombarded with distorted messaging on what makes a man, a man.
It starts at an early age. Thank you media. Well-deserved attention is given to the media's distorted perception of women's bodies and the devastating effects on young girls and women, yet there is no similar outcry over the distorted perception of men's bodies especially regarding "average" penis size.
What messages are we giving to the young boys and men we love? While we can argue day and night that there is no actual correlation between penis size and true manhood — in the media, where are the portrayals of the considerate and competent lover?
No, instead, we are shown that a man is only popular with the ladies if he is well hung with the stamina of a superhero. We are forced to endure uncomfortable locker room scenes and brutally insensitive remarks from expensively dressed jerks with a woman in a skin-tight dress in one hand and keys to a sports car in another, or beautiful albeit insipid women gossiping and bragging about their well-endowed new lover. (Although, no one considers that the screenwriter creating both scenes was probably someone with a complex!)
A new study, published in the Journal of Sexual Health, provides an eye-opening global overview regarding condom use. The good news first: condom usage is on the rise. The bad news: many condom users unwittingly make serious mistakes when it comes to using and choosing the best condoms, and the majority of these failures are due to men wearing the wrong size condom. (You mean there are different condom sizes? Why yes, there are.)
Surprisingly, few condom users are educated about the three different sizes of condoms available: small, medium, and large. This critical information is rarely a component of Sex Ed. Of course, high school students are told that they must wear a condom when having sex (or risk death), and, if lucky, they are shown how to use one on a well-endowed banana. However, the dialogue stops there.