2. Calling at the last minute for dates. This makes a woman think he already had plans with someone else and they fell through, so she’s the 2nd or 3rd choice. If a man is interested, he will not risk the woman being unavailable when he would like to see her, and therefore plans ahead.
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3. Not contacting me when I didn’t respond to his virtual “Kiss”. At that point, I was still willing to see him again. The fact that he gave up so easily tells me his interest level was not very high, otherwise he would have tried to contact me at least one more time.
Bachelor No. 3 was someone I never actually met. Mr. “S” and I had exchanged a few emails when the caption on his profile changed to, “I’m off the market”. He wrote to me and said he wasn’t really off the market, but he didn’t want certain people (interpretation: women) calling him.
I left him a voicemail with my phone number on a Friday afternoon. Friday went by. Saturday and Sunday came and went. Monday passed too. 5 days later on Tuesday afternoon he sent an email saying he had been busy with work, but he was going to call soon. Okay, no problem, I thought.
Well, the planets must have changed overnight, because when I woke up Wednesday morning, I said to myself, “Oh hell no!” If Mr. “S” couldn’t find a few minutes to call in 5 days, I was out. No one it that busy. I sent him the following email, “You don’t have to call me. I’ve changed my mind. If you’re that busy, I’m not interested.” Donald Trump once said you can tell a lot about a person by how they behave when they lose. The response I received spoke volumes about who I was dealing with.
Mr. “S” wrote back saying work came first and if I couldn’t understand that, then we didn’t have to meet. He said he wasn’t desperate, didn’t chase females and was going to get around to me last. He also said some other things which I won't mention.
WHAT HE DID WRONG:
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1. Changing the caption on his profile so that certain women wouldn’t call him: This tells me there’s drama in his life.
2. Not calling for five days: I understand that when you meet a guy in the offline world, sometimes they wait a while to call because they want to stand out and don’t want to appear desperate. However, when someone is on a dating site, they are advertising the fact that they are actively seeking someone to date. 5 days is just too much when we’re talking about internet dating, especially when 2 of those days are weekend days. This tells me he is probably already involved with someone else.