We often are intimately aware of our own challenges in life and the solutions to those challenges and yet we still remain immobilized. Relationship coaches help you turn your knowledge into practice.
Is it because you can get all the info you need from self help books and the internet? Well knowledge is very important but it is not what makes for happy relationships. A person can read every self help book on love and relationship there is but without the self discipline and communication skills to implement the knowledge into practice you can still be dead in the water so to speak.
Is it because you can't afford it? Well my question to you is can you afford not to? If you think things are tight living together as a couple it certainly isn't any cheaper to support separate households, pay for childcare, divorce and maintenance among hundreds of other new expenses you can't even begin to imagine if your relationship fails.
Is it that you don't want to hurt your partners feelings by suggesting you get outside help? Ask yourself this...will you end up hurting your partner's feelings a heck of a lot more by not getting help to get your needs met. Chances are you will. Times have changed, it is now considered emotionally mature to gain guidance - its cool promise ! And more importantly the process can be exciting, rewarding and a great deal of fun ( pssst you may even begin to have sex again lol !)
Is it because you have tried counseling before and it got you nowhere? Well kudos for giving it a go but if a mechanic was unable to diagnose what was wrong with your Merc would you take it to the wreckers or would you seek out a second or third opinion? Finding someone you feel comfortable sharing what is going on with you is a very personal choice and you may have to try a few different modalities before you find the right fit.
Is it because you just can't be asked to do the work? Ouch! Well then don't complain to yourself or anyone else that your relationship sucks. Or better yet I love the one - its not my issue its my partner's - they need to get help not me. Well I have some news for you if you are in the relationship it is as much your problem as your partners - if you are stuck in this mode of thinking well - all I can say is I hope your partner has the strength to leave!
So what are you waiting for? Regardless of what stage of relationship you are in, single, pre committed, pre marital, Committed you can work with a coach to improve your chances of creating a truly ideal, blissful happy union.