Missy, your search is over!
When I was a little girl, I swore to myself that I didn't want to settle with just anybody. I would rather be alone than live in a loveless relationship — screw that! I wanted to experience true love, like what some lucky couples have, and I wanted it my way.
I used to joke with others that I could advise you on what not to do. I probably dated them all (the wrong guys) but I didn't settle. I waited and did the necessary work to have what I want — a fantastic boyfriend!
Want to know if the guy you're dating is right for you? Then check out these seven signs:
1. He gets you.
When you're with the right guy, it feels like he can read your mind. He's sensitive to your needs, he knows exactly what to say and do. It feels like he just gets you.
2. He always steps up.
No matter which dating phase you're in, he makes the effort to get to the next level. After three months, he claims you as his girlfriend. After the first date, he asks to see you again.
He's sensitive to your needs, and surprises you with that thing you said you wanted months ago. He never fails to make the extra effort for you.
3. You feel loved.
Those little things he does for you makes you feel special. He tells you he loves you, not as a response to your demand but because he feels it and he wants to.
He does loving things for you like fixing the car, cooking you a meal or giving you a great big hug, like he will never see you again, every night before you go to bed.
4. You can't imagine your life without him.
That doesn't mean "I'll die without you" but rather "When I think of my future, you're always in it."
He feels the same way, and you're not only sharing and enjoying the present moment, but also your thoughts about your future together.
5. He gives you the freedom to be you.
When I was changing my circumstances, I asked my best friend Laura, "Why is your relationship so successful?" I'll never forget her response.
She said that one of the most important factors in her successful relationship was the fact that she had the freedom to continue to be herself, but with a partner. In her own words "I feel like I have the best of both worlds."
6. He makes you feel important.
You always feel like you are significant in his life. We all have other things that draw on our time and energy, but somehow, he manages to make you a priority, without either of you sacrificing those things you value outside the relationship.
7. The sex is GREAT.
As women, it's hard for us to sleep with a man unless we're attracted to them. We need to feel comfortable with him and ourselves. We need to like our own bodies, and be free to enjoy the experience.
The right guy is as much about your needs as his own, and he understands that feeling loved equals hot sex, and a satisfied woman!
Never settle for second best, go after what you want and don't give up till you see him. Great men are out there waiting for you, waiting to fall in love with the perfect woman. So don't think that having what you want is impossible, do what you need to do to get him.