Money is one of the main causes for divorce. While it may not always be true, in many cases, it is the lack of money that is the real problem. Knowing that, it is very important to develop financial independence regardless of whether or not your spouse is able to make ends meet for both of you. Finding a soulmate, then, is a matter of thinking with your head as much as your heart. If it is the heart that leads you to your One, it is the head that helps you manage that relationship so it remains healthy for life.
Being financially dependent on the man of the house is acceptable in most cultures. However, in today's fast-paced world, that equation has changed in these very same cultures. No longer is the woman expected to take care of the family while the husband brings home the bacon. This age-old concept is slowly beginning to create a new equation – one of financial equality as much as social equality. So, in order to prepare yourself for the right relationship with the right man, you must make yourself financially independent. In the current scenario, it is a lot easier to do than it was even a few decades ago. It is not a question of finding a soulmate who doesn't mind being the sole breadwinner of the household – it is much, much more than that: it is a question of not expecting that to be the case!
Money and the Heart
If you want to answer the question "how can you find true love?" you must look at things from every angle — including the financial one. True love means that your thinking is very similar. For example, if you want a generous spouse, then you must first be generous. It is unreasonable to expect something in your soulmate that you are not prepared to be or do. Your views on money should be aligned with that of your One. This often happens, but you can certainly plan and make sure that it does.
The Dating Phase
When a man is "wooing you" he may be spending a lot of money. This may not be his usual habit. In fact, he may be depending on his credit card to support him during this time and hoping that he'll get through when the bill comes to roost! Don't assume he has a lot of money based on the expensive dates he may be taking you out on.
The Abundance Mentality
"How can you find true love?" is a question that is best answered by your own sense of abundance. Being aware that the Universe is abundant and has the capacity to satisfy every human desire is the basis of all healthy thinking. In the process of finding a soulmate, you must have this in mind at all times. When you meet someone who you think might be the perfect soulmate for you, learn to sense their attitude towards abundance. This is the only way to go about it.
In summary, once you are financially independent, you are ready to go out into the world and have the Law of Attraction for Love work for you instead of against you. Before that, you must know your own attitudes towards money and abundance. Only then can you expect the same from a man who could potentially be your soulmate.
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