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Looking For Love? Supersize Your Attitude!


Are you overweight and depressed about the question "how can I find love?"

The secret to finding a soulmate is the way you think about things; if you are a supersized human being, your thinking and your attitude need to be supersized as well!

So you've got a few extra pounds that shouldn't be there in the first place. So what? That doesn't mean you're out of the race for finding a soulmate! In fact, if you’re serious about answering that million-dollar question — how can I find true love — then you have to realize that there is someone out there waiting for you. All you need to do is learn how to find the path that leads you to them – and negativity is definitely not it!

Let’s look at this issue from a couple of different angles to see if we can arrive at the right solution to looking for love and being overweight.

First of all, you need to show some respect. To whom?  To yourself, of course.  If you have any thought of self-deprecation banging around in your head, then remember that this is exactly what you will be attracting. The law of attraction for love is very clear about this: we only attract (and powerfully so) the things we think about the most; the things that are constantly at the top of our minds. So if you fall into the trap of low self-esteem, then how you can expect to attract someone with a high sense of self-worth?

Next, it’s about the affirmations you’re feeding yourself everyday — pardon the pun. Your body is aware that you aren’t pleased with its appearance, but what if you could feed it a different mental diet for a while. That means, instead of complaining about your weight, try saying to yourself: “I love my body”, and do it consistently for 30 days. You will start to feel changes happening within you.

It is very important that you do this diligently and not let any negative energy emanate from you – either during this time or after. You’ll see some marked difference in your attitude at the end of 30 days. This is the way to go. If you start working from the inside out, you have better chances of success. The key thing is to make sure that the negativity doesn’t creep in, as it tends to. Finding a soulmate is first about feeling good before you can look good. It must come from the inside. It must be your firm belief that there is someone out there just for you, and that you deserve all the good things that are happening to you.

The final step is the answer to “how can I find true love?” — Assuming you have followed the advice above religiously, you will now be feeling better about yourself and your prospects for love. It is this strong belief and faith that will make the law of attraction for love work in your favor, because only what you believe to be true will happen to you. By this time, you will have cleared your thoughts of any negativity that might do damage to your present and future. You are now ready to receive what the universe has conspired to bring you. You are finally at peace with yourself, and this is the only way to make it work. Pretty soon you will find yourself in the arms of the one you love. The One.


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