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Sex and Power, Power and Sex

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Sex and Power, Power and Sex
Arnold Schwarzenegger's adultery reminds us that men with power and moral corruption go hand in hand

I am trying not to judge, just asking everyone to wake up and ask some important questions. When powerful politicians start spouting off about family values or anti-gay rhetoric, we need to ask, are they hiding something. Thou protests too much! And, if it is the case, that so many powerful people at some point abuse their power, can we forgive? Do we need to change the rules or the playing field? Even though President Clinton had an impeachment hearing, he left office with a 66% approval rating and the budget in good shape. We forgave him and why shouldn’t we, his wife was able to forgive him, who are we to judge. Will Maria forgive and try to make the marriage work? Should she? Arnold kept a secret from her for 12 years. This is a very very long time. What does that do to the fabric of your relationship? Yet I know, adultery is forgivable and the foundation of trust can be restored to a broken marriage. Hard work, but it can be done.

Who is willing to throw the first stone? Whose past is unblemished? Are we expecting too much from our officials, heroes, movie stars? Is it too much to expect fidelity? Do we have unrealistic expectations of marriage? Should we as a society change our mores to include extra-marital relations?

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I may be a relationship expert, but these are very personal questions that we all need to decide for ourselves. What do you think?
 

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Lori Rubenstein

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Lori S. Rubenstein, JD, CPC is a family law attorney-mediator turned relationship coach turned Forgiveness Teacher. Her passion is to help you discover and remove the roadblocks that get in the way of joy and finding your way back to love. You can get back on that path with Lori’s books, Forgiveness: Heal Your Past and Find the Peace You Deserve, Transcending Divorce: A Guide to Personal Growth and Transformation, Freedom from Abuse: Finding Yourself Again, and with her 10-CD/audio and workbook, The I am Petrified to Date Again Dating Package.

You can watch and hear Lori talk about Forgiving the Unforgivable here.  

To talk personally to Lori about your situation, you may reach her at lorirubenstein@gmail.com. If you would like to be informed about upcoming workshops, teleclasses and retreats in Lori’s monthly newsletter, text the word forgive to 22828. 

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Location: Clarkdale, AZ
Credentials: CPC, JD
Specialties: Divorce/Divorce Prevention
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