Surfing's Not So Sexy
While many of us connect to the internet on our phones, others are incessantly working on their computers or surfing the net on their laptops from the couch or bed. If you and your partner both enjoy spending your evenings doing this, it may not be as large of a problem. However, even if you're in agreement—and really verify that you are in agreement—you're still choosing the internet over intimacy or together-time with your sweetheart. There are online timers that allow you to control your browsing time and remind you when it's time to switch from Facebook to face time.
Connecting with the online world is not the same as connecting with people in intimate or in-person encounters. In fact, we may be harming our ability to connect with others by becoming addicted to technology. The University of Maryland concluded in a 2010 study that most college students are functionally unable to be without their media links to the world for even one day. Without technology, they felt disconnected, even to those close by. Many Couples No Longer Communicate In Person
Try to recapture some of the nonessential time you spend with technology, and spend it instead bonding with your living, breathing partner.
To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.
Right now, I want you to:
Be smart about smart phones. Never make or take phone calls or texts while sharing intimate time (talking or touching). Turn it off for a period of time each day that you dedicate to spending with your partner.
Within 7 days I want you to:
Remove the TV from your bedroom, or at least cover it in the evenings. Research says couples without a TV in the bedroom have sex twice as often as those with a TV there.
By the end of the challenge I want you to:
Discuss with your spouse (or partner) a time each day that you can both have a half-hour or hour break from smart phones, computers and other devices that keep you disconnected from one another. Use that time to do something fun together without taking the world along. Take a bubble bath together, go for a bike ride, or try something new between the sheets.