When we are courageous to share the deepest part of ourselves, express our needs in a responsible way, those are the stepping stones for intimacy and bonding. It also permits your partner to be vulnerable as well. When you’re feeling stuck in a relationship, often, you’re stuck in a monologue.
5) See luscious life partnership as a classroom to laugh and learn
So often we look for a relationship to fix or complete us, to cure our loneliness, bolster our self-esteem, rather than a classroom to laugh and learn and develop as human beings through partnership. When we seek the latter, you don’t “fall in love,” but “grow in love,” becoming stronger and truer to yourself in the process. I also believe that in the most powerful relationships, you’ll meet the person where there is the greatest healing available. While seldom comfortable, there will be important soul lessons available through this partnership. Also, sprinkle in humor wherever possible, nothing will shift an argument or disagreement faster than laughing at some piece of it. Laughter allows for a shift in perception. And with that shift, you can both open your heart, and start to see the other person’s perspective as well.
6) Get clear of what you want but also what’s stopping you from having it
Along with getting very clear of what you want in a relationship, it’s so important to honor what I call “the objections,” those parts of you that are scared to have it. One of my clients said it perfectly, “If you drive with the brakes on, not only will you not get there, but you’ll hurt the engine in the process.” The subconscious mind is a very powerful thing. If it is not aligned with what you want, you can affirm, law of attraction until the proverbial cows come home, but if you don’t give voice or get to know the parts that are resistant or afraid, you’ll have a much harder time creating it, often sabotaging yourself at every corner.
Lastly, don’t give up 5 minutes before the relationship miracle. It’s there…for you, for everyone!