The Happy Woman Quotient


The Happy Woman Quotient
The All-Too-Often Missing Ingredient in an Extraordinary Relationship

“Many years ago, I found myself asking Spirit what it would take to save the world. And the answer came clearly and immediately: a lot of enlightened women.”
~ Leslie Temple Thurston

When I ran across this quote a couple years ago in What Is Enlightenment magazine (now EnlightenNext magazine), it snared my attention like thunderclap announcing a wash of rain on cracked, parched earth.


What exactly is the key to understanding women in relationships? How exactly is women’s enlightenment the key to “save the world?”

I know for sure it doesn’t mean a lot of women ACTING enlightened, or behaving in the “enlightened” fashion de jour. Acting enlightened, rather than living it as our truth, tends to just make us more cranky and frankly, un-enlightened. To me, the key is a whole lot of women fed by the realization of who they are, awake to their nature, alive with the privilege of being a woman, full of light. Furthermore, being turned on (rather than off); turned up (rather than down); lit-up (like a thousand-watt light-bulb) and hooked up to our passions and desires -- and then living, acting and behaving from there, isn't a bad start either. I also know that they key to enlightenment, especially for women, lies also in our full joy and happiness.

I’ve spent much of the past ten years throwing myself headlong into research of the seemingly elusive condition, happiness. Through varied trainings, studies with folks who’ve been studying happiness for the past 40 years, work with clients and testing it all out on myself and my own relationship, I’ve come to a glorious conclusion: the health of a group, whether that is as large as a culture or as small as a relationship or family, can be measured by the happiness of the women.

When the women are happy, everyone is happy; when they women are unhappy, somehow it's hard for everyone else to be happy. However, if you look around in your own life experience, you’ll likely notice that many, maybe even most, women around you are shut down and pissed off. Maybe you’ve never even seen what a happy, radiant woman looks like.

There is no universal standard of happiness; you know when you are happy and when you are not. I'm not talking about plastering on a saccharine smile or pretending a sunny demeanor when you don't mean it. I'm talking about your real and true happiness and joy, when your unique expression of life-force is running unleashed and unfettered through your glowing veins. Generally, though, as defined by the veterans I’ve studied with, happiness is a function of appreciating what is so, not what you wish to be so. When you find your life and yourself good, right and wonderful, you are happy.

When you find your life and yourself bad, wrong and miserable, you are unhappy.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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