Sexual Frequency: How Much Sex Is Enough?

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Sexual Frequency: How Much Sex Is Enough?

But here’s what they said:

1) Blissful- 3-5 times/week

2) Content- once/week

3) Bare minimum- once/month

What My Tweeps Have to Say About Sexual Frequency

I asked my buddies on Twitter how much sex was enough, and here’s what they have to say. Dr. Jeanette, a licensed psychologist, says, “When you have enough sex, you know it. Just like an orgasm, there is no doubt!” She believes that you’re having enough sex when “you’re full and satisfied, and your cup runneth over. Divine sex is the only sex that touches the whole body.” For more on the formula for divine sex, visit Dr. Jeanette’s website (and follow her on Twitter @DorisJeanette). @PheasantPhun says, “Money and sex are similar. When you have some, you can’t get all you want. If you don’t have any, you can’t get any. Another similarity between money and sex, you only need enough to get by on, and some days you need way more than others.” @ThingsMomsLike says, “Seems like it ebbs and flows through the years and if no one is dissatisfied, it's all good. We check in. If it's been a while, we talk about it, and usually it's a mutual sense of just being too tired.” @stephanieelliot says, "How much do we get it on? A lot more now that hubby is home and walking around nekkid!" @amandabeez says, “Can you ever have enough?”

My Sex Life (TMI?)

What do you Pinkies think? I can’t help comparing everyone else’s answers to my own sex life (you’re probably counting boinks right now- it’s impossible not to compare ourselves to others, isn’t it?) My husband and I probably get down about once or twice a week (twice is a good week- once is probably more average). I’m pretty sure if I showed up in my black teddy more often, he’d be all over that, so I guess I’m the brakes in our sex life. Why don’t I put out more often? I mean, I love my husband and I think he’s totally sexy. So what gets in the way? Time, energy, not wanting the burden of any more expectation in my life. But we’re content. Is content good enough? Not sure. Could it be better? I think so. Could we grow in mojo as we explore our sexuality together? Yes. Will we? Hope so.

What I Think

I guess, when it comes right down to it- here’s what I think about sexual frequency. If you and your partner are both happy, it’s enough. Nuff said. If one of you is dissatisfied, it bears exploration, because those seeds of discontent breed loss of mojo and relationship discord. Can you talk to your partner about it? I know sex is hard to discuss, but can you touch base periodically and check in? If you and your partner disagree about sexual frequency, can you make compromises? So often, we make assumptions about our partners that simply aren’t true. Maybe you wish you could have sex twice a week, but your partner only wants it every other week. Maybe you assume your partner just isn’t that sexual, when in truth, your partner just doesn’t always want to put in the hour-long ordeal of loads of foreplay. What if you could just have a quickie every now and then- just to tie you over? Would you be willing to sacrifice quality for quantity? Or is it all about quality- and quantity be damned?

What Do You Think?

How much sex is enough for you? Are you able to talk to your partner about your wants and needs? If you’re not putting out, why not? What roadblocks are keeping you from Owning Sexuality in a rockin’, kickin’ sexy way? What can you do to better Own your sexuality? It’s all part of Owning Pink, and we’re in this together. Let’s talk.

Tata for now, you sexy thang!

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