4 Reasons To Get Back With An Ex - Or Not

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4 Reasons To Get Back With An Ex - Or Not
Single life can make an ex seem pretty good. But is getting back together the best choice?

3. Because Your Ex Might Actually Be Someone Special Instead Of So-So: I get it. Being single can sometimes suck. Especially as you watch all of your girlfriends settle down, get married, and live a life that feels out of reach. But guess what's even worse than being temporarily alone? Being lonely in a relationship with the wrong person forever. Sure, you can make the case that settling for a mediocre relationship means you're sure to reach all those life milestones: marriage, baby and "now what." But I've gotta tell you: Those milestones are only meaningful with the right person. I've said it before and I'll say it again: had I married and had a child with any other man I'd dated or been in a relationship with prior to meeting The Hubs, I would either be divorced or in jail for murder. So how do you feel? Is your ex truly someone special? Is your ex a Game ON or a Game OVER?

4. Because Big Risks Can Pay Off: The disappointment that accompanies the demise of a relationship can be paralyzing. It's not just that you loved your ex and the life you had together; it's that the version of "happily ever after" you constructed in your head and heart is forever gone, and you're forced to mourn the loss alone. This, by far, is the most compelling reason women want to get back together with their ex. And while I think there's nothing more exciting than for an individual to walk away from the wrong relationship (whether they got dumped or did the dumping) so they can ready themselves for the right one, I get that the risk of believing someone better is out there may feel far too, well, risky. If you've truly taken the time to search around and consider other options but still feel that your ex is the one, you might have something there.

 

But here's the thing all major leaders and successful love stories will tell you: Without great risk, there is no great reward. I think you're worthy of gambling on. I'm betting if you don't get back together with your ex, you will eventually find the most amazing love of your life. But again — I said eventually. I know that's a frustrating word when your ex is available immediately.

So there you have it. Four compelling reasons to get back together with your ex and the reality checks that accompany each one. So there's just one more question: when it comes to getting back together with your ex, are you saying Game ON or Game OVER?

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