Why You Should Get Back With Your Ex
By Lisa Steadman. Posted on .
It's over. Not only is your relationship in the rear view mirror, but your breakup's settling into the dust, too. And yet here you are, thinking about your ex. Wondering if you gave up too quickly. Asking yourself if it's too late to make the relationship work.
I get it. I've been there. Once upon a time - way before marriage with The Hubs and my brief foray as an #ImposterMom to my niece, I was in the throes of my Big Breakup. And it was messy. I was 30, watching all my friends settle down with amazing men and having adorable babies. Yet there I was, single and broken hearted. Again.
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Loser at Love is what they would have called my reality series.
Things are different now. For me. But every day I talk to men and women around the world about all things relationship on my live online relationship advice TV show called GAME OVER: Street Smart Love Advice.
And several times week, someone asks, Should I get back with my ex? And if so, HOW?
I'll be honest. My standard response is a big fat HELL NO.
But here's the deal. My hell no may be YOUR hell yeah. And if so, I just want to arm you with the best advice possible so that you know exactly why you want to get back with your ex and how it may actually be one of the best decisions you ever make.
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What follows are the top 4 reasons you should get back together with your ex...
1. Because This Time It Could Really Work
All those things that DIDN'T work in your relationship before - whether it was cheating, opposing values, dishonesty, lack of respect, not wanting the same things out of life, money woes, differing views on politics, religion, children, etc? If you give it one more shot with your ex, those relationship obstacles might magically disappear and you two could actually make a GO of this Happily Ever After thing once and for all. If you find yourself saying, Maybe - just maybe - things will be different this time, you're not alone. Smart, successful, amazing individuals just like you tell themselves this lie all the time so they can reconnect with their ex. My question to YOU is this: Is your ex saying the same thing? Are you in agreement about what needs to change in the relationship before you give it another go? Is the answer's yes, Game ON. If the answer's I don't know or No, Game OVER.
