Quality #1: He Listens to You
The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthy of) being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You’ll know he’s listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things you’ve told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend’s name, etc.), and offers emotional support in honest and thoughtful ways. If your current Mr. Next exhibits the signs of a thoughtful listener, he’s still in the running to becoming Mr. Right.
Quality #2: You Share An Effortless Ease
We’ve all been in those relationships that take W-O-R-K (and suck the life force out of us in the process). When a relationship works on its own, it feels effortless, easy, and fluid. You don’t have to force anything, forgive anything, or turn a blind eye to red flags or gut-twisters. Instead, you and Mr. Next communicate and collaborate with comfort, compatibility, and undeniable chemistry. If and when you experience this kind of interaction with Mr. Next, you may be on to something really special.
More from YourTango: Women & The Workplace: Who Wins?
Quality #3: You Don't Have to Compromise Who You Are
So often, women feel the need to sacrifice some part of themselves to make a relationship work. In the right relationship, there’s no need. You don’t have to hide, tone down, or apologize for any aspect of your fabulous life. With the right partner, you’re not only able to be yourself, but you’re better able to be the best version of your most authentic self, no compromises needed.
Quality #4: You Trust Him
A relationship without trust is doomed from the start. But a relationship with abundant trust? A fabulous foundation for real and lasting love. Built over time, trust is based on the simple belief system that Mr. Next has your best interests at heart and will never intentionally hurt you (and vice versa). If and when you discover that Mr. Next is 100% trust worthy, you’ll have no trouble giving your heart to him. In return, he’ll most likely give you his heart and pave the way for a lasting loving relationship to unfold.
Quality #5: He Enriches Your Life
In the wrong relationship, your partner tears you down, brings you down, and in general drains your energy. In the right relationship, Mr. Next enriches your life, inspires you to be your best self, and in general brings a sense of peace and possibility to you. You’ll know Mr. Next is enriching your life if and when he encourages and supports you professionally, personally and spiritually. And when he does, he may just be Mr. Right!
More from YourTango: The Surprising Victim Of Marissa Mayer's New Mandate
Does your Mr. Next possess all 5 qualities? If so, congratulations! You have done your homework, chosen wisely, and are now well positioned for success. If not, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back into the dating pool with a clearer understanding of who you want to date. Remember, finding Mr. Right isn’t always easy, but by being clear, honoring yourself, and acting accordingly, you’ll cut down on wasted time with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Next, and ultimately make room for Mr. Right.
For more tips and techniques for manifesting Mr. Right, pick up a copy of up my book If He's Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong - and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right.