Moving forward, why not put all of that amazing love and attention on your own interests, your own needs, your own self nurturing? That way, you’ll never again get lost in a relationship, living solely for the purpose of helping your partner get everything they want and need, all the while feeling suffocated, isolated, and/or under-appreciated. Truthfully, in a healthy and happy relationship, wants and needs are a two-way street. You take care of yourself AND your partner, and vice versa. Love that! In the meantime, focus all that love and attention on Y-O-U.
Trap #5: You’re scared to be single
When it comes to being single, what scares you the most? Standing on your own two feet? Not having a date on Saturday night? Never dating again? Never meeting your perfect partner, falling in love, and experiencing your very own version of happily ever after? All of the above? The truth is, you ARE worthy of love, warts and all. Your happily ever after still exists. It’s just up to you to redefine it. In the meantime, it’s okay to be scared to be single. It may be new and unfamiliar territory, but guess what? As uncomfortable as it can sometimes feel, being single is also a gift and a blessing. And in time, you may just discover that you actually enjoy being single.
Which of the five traps above resonates most with you? Can you see how being stuck in those traps is holding you back? If so, give yourself permission to set yourself free and move on. When in doubt, pick up my book If He's Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong - and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right. Good luck and happy man-ifesting!