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The Savvy Single’s Guide for a Great Valentine's Day

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The Savvy Single’s Guide for a Great Valentine's Day

Do: Give thanks for the ones who got away
Today, give thanks for the ones who are no longer here. Even if you have yet to meet Mr. Right, in letting go of those old relationships you have given yourself permission to be your most fabulous self. And in doing so, you’re bound to meet someone who’s better suited for you. Woohoo!

Don’t: Feel sorry for yourself if you don’t have an S.O.
Pity parties are SO last year. This is the year of you, fabulous you! If you happen to be single, celebrate. Remember - even though it may sometimes feel like it, being single is not terminal. It’s terrific! But it’s up to you to make the most of it. And you do that by being your most authentic and amazing self. And being open to the endless possibilities.

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Do: Celebrate the love in your life
Whether it’s romantic love, true friendships, that unshakable bond between you and your pets, or the love you have for your family, this Valentine's Day it's important to take a look around and realize just how lucky you are. Maybe Mr. hasn’t found you yet. But you know what? You are loved. When you celebrate that, it shows. (And you never know who might be watching and falling for you!)

Don’t: Buy generic candy or flowers
You don't have to have a significant other to celebrate on February 14th. But you do need to use your imagination. Instead of recruiting your girlfriends to pay for an overpriced standard menu at a fancy restaurant or sending each other generic candy or flowers, get creative! Invite your gal pals over for a potluck and cocktails. Or go out for a night of disco bowling! Or if you feel like being alone, rent a favorite non-romantic movie and watch it in your pajamas while eating your fave takeout. Have fun!

Do: Flirt with strangers
Just like every other day of the year, flirting is a must! You never know what can happen. An innocent flirtation can boost your ego, brighten your day, and/or possibly turn into a coffee date that may lead to a budding romance. Come on – take a chance!

Don’t: Spend your night online
You have 364 other perfectly acceptable days and nights to find a date or chat with other savvy singles online. On Valentine's Day, take the night off. Trust that if there’s somebody out there in cyberspace for you, they’ll be there on February 15th. And 16th. And so on.

Do: Give to charity
Instead of buying meaningless gifts for friends or loved ones this Valentine's Day, why not give the gift of charity? Find a cause close to your heart. Doing something good for others will take the focus off of the Hallmark holiday and boost your single spirit for sure!

Don’t: Put too much stock in one day
And one last tip. Remember that Valentine’s Day is but once a year. It does not define who you are. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’ll never find love or have a successful relationship (it only takes one!). Today more than ever, it’s important to maintain perspective.

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