Heal your heart in just 21 days


Heal your heart in just 21 days

And because nothing helps a girl through her post-breakup pain quite like getting even, it's time to start scheming.  Make a list of all your ex’s dirty little secrets and plot various ways to expose them.  Put your pinky to your lips and let out an evil cackle as you indulge in fantasies about how your ex’s life will be ruined once you've spilled his secrets. (Don’t worry – you won’t actually engage any of these risky revenge fantasies!)

Day 8: Announce your breakup
Now that you're in touch with your post-breakup rage, it's time to tell the world all the dishy details. Call and/or email your friends and vent about your ex and the breakup.  Don't stop there -- go online and update your social networking profile(s) with your newly single status.  You can even let off some steam by sharing your story on a breakup message board.  This is one time when airing your dirty laundry in public is the right thing to do (just don’t name names!).
Day 9: Disappear for a day
Just as you wish your ex would disappear, today's the day to create your own missing persons report.  Call in sick to work, pack a backpack full of goodies, and get lost for the day -- without your cell phone.  From getting back to nature with a day at the beach, lake, or park to museum or movie hopping, pick an activity that soothes your soul and then get lost.

Day 10: Reclaim your space
Now that you're getting used to the idea that the breakup actually happened, it's time to exorcise your ex from your home.  You’ll want to make a clean sweep, gathering any remaining evidence of his existence (photos, clothes, shampoo, etc.).  Put all his leftover stuff in a box and put the box in your car.  You can decide later whether to burn it, donate it, or sell it on eBay. Once the exorcism is complete, it’s time to give your home a much-needed makeover. Paint the walls vibrant colors, rearrange the furniture, celebrate your inner girly girl!

Day 11: The Halfway Hump Slump
Now that you’re halfway through your detox, you may be feeling a little disoriented. Today’s the day to identify any remaining toxins in your system, as well as make a plan for purging the leftover demons.

Day 12: Dump your slump
Channel your inner super heroine and dump that post-breakup slump! Say sayonara to the past and yes to your fab future, sans What’s his name. Whether you know it or not, your reinvention is under way!

Day 13: Take a flying leap
Remember that fabulously fun and fierce girl your ex fell in love with?  Now's the time to reconnect with her. Look in the mirror and just say hi.  Ask her how she's doing.  Find out what she feels like doing today and then no matter how self-indulgent it is, do it. It’s time to take that flying leap into your future!

Day 14: Plan a girl getaway

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