Heal Your Heart & Be Glad He's Gone

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Heal Your Heart & Be Glad He's Gone

And speaking of friends, as much as your instincts
may be nudging you to wallow all alone in your comfy cocoon, you're never going
to get through the breakup without them. 
Which is why now's the time to recruit a Boo-Hoo Crew. Part cheerleader,
part therapist, your Boo-Hoo Crew should be reliable, patient, and consist of
at least three friends for round-the-clock supervision and support. The role of
the Boo-Hoo Crew is to provide the following:

  • A
    shoulder to cry on
  • A
    voice of reason
  • Damage
    control (in case you get the urge to contact your ex)
  • The
    bright side

Tip #3:
Forgive yourself

 

Women are especially tough on themselves following
a breakup.  They feel like a failure at
love.  They also feel like their chances
of experiencing their happily ever after future have just been obliterated.  The Why’s,
What if’s, and If only I’d… statements take over, driving even the sanest woman to
the brink of insanity.  That’s why it’s
essential in breakup recovery to forgive yourself, to understand that you did
everything you possibly could, but things still didn’t work out.  It’s not a character flaw. It’s just reality.

Tip #4:
Put your Focus Elsewhere

Feeling down in the dumps after getting
dumped?  While you should give yourself
time to celebrate your slump, you shouldn’t let your entire life go down the
drain. Focus your energies on building your business, landing that promotion,
or in some other way make your work life take off.  By committing to your future success, you
take the focus off your ex and the past and put it on your brilliant future.

Tip #5:
Redefine Happily Ever After

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Lisa Steadman

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