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There’s no denying it. Breaking
up is oh-so hard to do, especially in
today’s 24-hour techno-savvy world of Facebook, Twitter, and post-breakup booty
calls arranged via sexting. Before you get down in the dumps about getting
dumped (or even if you did the dumping), the following five tips will help kick
start your recovery.  Before you know it,
you’ll not only be surviving but thriving!
 

Tip #1:
EXtract Your Ex from Your Life

Immediately following the breakup, cut your ex out
of your life. That means no cyber stalking him on his Facebook, MySpace, or
Twitter page, no 3 a.m. desperation emails or texts, and no driving by your
ex’s house to see who's home.  You should
also make a clean sweep of your home, getting rid of any and all items that
remind you or relate to your ex. This exorcism can be challenging but in order
to really move on after a breakup, it's absolutely essential.

If you have
to
keep your ex in your life (if you have kids together, run a business
together, etc.), you should immediately create new boundaries and ground
rules.  For example, only discuss matters
relating to your children or business and avoid talking about your personal
lives.  Do NOT try to help each other
through the breakup.  That's what your
friends are for.

Tip #2:
Recruit a Boo-Hoo Crew

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