Fairytales Do Come True (And Other Lies Your Mother Told You)


Fairytales Do Come True (And Other Lies Your Mother Told You)

Walk away now, while your heart is intact, and break free of that Bad Boy habit – for good!

And They Lived Happily Ever After…Not!
Let’s face it. In the 21st century, being single can be brutal. That’s why it’s essential to your happily ever after future that you free yourself from the fairytale trap and any other ridiculous rescue fantasies you may be holding onto. These fantasies go something like this…

I don’t have to pay off my debt/invest in my retirement/buy a home on my own. My husband, wherever he is, will provide that for me when he finally comes along.

Sure there are things I don’t like about myself, but you know what? When my dream man gets here, all of that will magically disappear. So why put in the effort now?

All the guys I meet and date are losers. Where’s my White Knight? That one perfect guy just for me…

The truth is, life is not a fairytale. You’ve got to face yourself, your demons, and your shortcomings head on – starting today! By taking steps to become your best self, to free yourself from unhealthy emotional beliefs, and to really celebrate the beautiful woman inside of you, quirks and all, you position yourself to one day meet someone really special. However, if you choose to stay stuck in dysfunction, limiting beliefs, and poor emotional health, the likelihood of meeting and wooing someone amazing dramatically drop. The choice is yours. Now’s the time to take steps towards a healthier, happier, more realistic future.

For more on how to break free of those infuriating fairytales, pick up my book If He's Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong - and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right.

Got questions? Post them here or email me ask@lisasteadman.com.

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Lisa Steadman

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