Expert: How To Reinvent Your Love Life

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Expert: How To Reinvent Your Love Life

As for my Backup Plan? It’s turned into one hell of a well baked dish. Since first implementing the plan, I’ve married the love of my life, published 3 books, and I now coach single women who are ready to recreate themselves and their lives when their original plans go out the window and reinvention is essential to their very survival. I see the similarities between my client’s stories and my own. Like me, they believe time has run out on their chance to get love right. Like me, they fear their ex was The One, and that they ruined their happily ever after story by not being able to make it work. And like me, they blame themselves. They believe they’re too old, too fat, or not pretty enough to find love. While the age range of my clients varies from 30 to 57, the fears and stories are the same. And these fears and stories keep some of the most successful, smart, beautiful women paralyzed.  What Your Clothes Say About Your Love Life

The paralysis is only temporary if these women decide to take action. When a woman makes the decision to break free from her self-sabotaging story, and implement her Backup Plan, she falls back in love with herself and her life. She also awakens to the extraordinary truth that it’s never too late to meet the love of your life. Not only was she NEVER too old or too fat or too ugly to attract a man, she’s actually so stunning, young at heart, and sexy that men begin taking notice wherever she goes. And if she’s smart, she embraces this new life, celebrating her Backup Plan as the well baked dish it’s turning into. 

 

In this re-awakening, I’ve seen some incredible reinventions. After a bitter divorce, one client of mine quit her job, launched a passion project, and skyrocketed to success, meeting the love of her life along the way.

Another client made the difficult decision to walk away once and for all from a man she’s been involved with off and on for 18 years. At 55, she’s choosing HER as-yet-unknown happily ever after story over going back to her predictably unhappily ever after story with her ex. And after her Big Breakup, yet another client of mine rediscovered her love of salsa dancing, started teaching a few dance classes, and is now in high demand for workshops and parties, all because she implemented her Backup Plan. It’s no surprise she’s become a man magnet, having her choice of fun and fabulous dates on her nights off.

I’m constantly inspired by the reinventions my clients go through when they implement their Backup Plans. And speaking of Backup Plans, I recently attended a screening of the new Jennifer Lopez movie The Backup Plan. In the film Jennifer plays Zoe, a 39 year old single woman who decides, with no potential Mr. Right in sight, to get artificially inseminated. Of course, on her road to single motherhood, Zoe meets and falls in love with her Mr. Right. Jennifer Lopez Sues Ex-Husband For $10 Million

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Lisa Steadman

Location: Los Angeles, CA
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Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Life Management
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