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Are Bad Love Habits Keeping You Single?

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So what's a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that’s keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship.

The following are some common bad love habits:

* Do you choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs?

* Do you think love have to be difficult, painful, and/or hard?

* Do you think your potential partner is going to fix whatever it is that you don't like about yourself or your life?

* Do you believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children?

If any of the above sound familiar, don't worry. You're not a lost cause. In fact, with a little time and effort, you can turn things around! What follows are five simple and effective tips and techniques geared towards helping you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits. Practiced over time, you can and will kick any bad love habit -- for good!

Identify the dating traps you’re stuck in

Think you've got to miraculously solve all your problems before you'll be deserving of love? Convinced there are no good men left? Or do you believe that Mr. Right will one day swoop in and magically save you from your life? If any or all of the above sound familiar, chances are good that you suffer from some common dating traps. In order to become a successful single, you first need to free yourself from these traps. Acknowledging the traps you're stuck in is the first step. Next, you've got to break free of these traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck.

Assess your excess baggage It's important to get really honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates (or in life in general). What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, NOT your present or future. If you've got negative or destructive beliefs or fears weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump that excess baggage – and move on!

Dump your excess baggage In order to manifest Mr. Right and the happily ever after future you deserve, you first need to believe you deserve to be happy. Gather those painful memories, that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they've got to go. Thank them for the lessons you've learned and tell them that it's now time for you to stand on your own two feet. In your mind's eye, give them the heave ho! Next, start visualizing the kind of life you want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, ideal home, etc. By getting clear about what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.

Stop putting off your life and/or personal happiness So many of us put off personal happiness waiting for some external result like "I'll be happy when I lose weight, when I pay off my debts, when I get a better job," etc. The truth is, you deserve to enjoy your fabulously imperfect life right this very minute! When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing joy until your life is magically perfect, today's the day to start celebrating the joy in your everyday life.

Embrace a new dating vocabulary Now that you're baggage light and dating trap-free, it's time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself "Love/dating/my ideal relationship is …” and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words. (Words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc.) By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes, and as a result, you’ll start attracting happier and healthier potential partners. Love that!

Want to know more about the bad love habits that may be keeping you stuck? Check out my e-book Bad Love No More: How to kick limiting relationship beliefs to the curb and say yes to real and lasting love!, available now at http://www.badlovenomore.com/

Ready to manifest Mr. Right? Pick up a copy of my new book If He's Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong - and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right.

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