4 Common Mistakes Single Women Make


4 Common Mistakes Single Women Make

I see this time and time again. When a woman believes that there are no good men available, all she sees is proof that she's right. I invite every woman who believes that all the good ones are taken to let go of her need to be right and instead step in to the desire to be happy. The truth is, there are good men everywhere. Not all of them are available. Not all of them are interested. And you're not interested in all of them. However, by acknowledging and celebrating these good men, even if they simply open a door for you, let you ahead of them in line at the grocery store, or compliment you on your perfume, this is an opportunity to recognize a good man. When you start celebrating the good men you interact with every day, and lighten up on your need to be right about your belief that there are no good single men left, you will change who you attract. In the process, you can attract somebody pretty fabulous. To Settle Or Not To Settle?

Mistake #4: They Run The Other Way

Time and time again, I see single women asking for a good guy to show up. And then when he does, they have the urge to run the other way. This is actually perfectly natural. If all a woman has ever experienced in her dating life is frustration, disappointment, and lack of emotional availability, then that's what she's used to. However, if she wants a different dating result, she's got to change her behavior. As initially uncomfortable as receiving interest, adoration, and genuine connection with a good man can feel when you've never felt it before, now's the time to get uncomfortable. Let yourself experience a different dating result. That's what you've asked for. Celebrate what you've manifested, move through the discomfort, and into the pure enjoyment of getting to know someone truly amazing who’s truly interested in getting to know you. Do You Run From Love?

When it comes to creating a life you love and attracting the love of your life, the key lies in getting really clear about how you may have sabotaged your success in the past. Once you acknowledge how you may have contributed to past disappointment and drama, you can change your behavior. With that simple act, you can create new beliefs and behavior and ultimately enjoy different (and better) results.

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Lisa Steadman


Lisa Steadman

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Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Life Management
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