These stats not only disqualify some common dating myths’s annual Singles in America study reveals some pretty juicy (and surprising) facts about America’s current dating population, and some of them might shock you. These stats not only disqualify some common dating myths; they also provide some really interesting insights into what men and women look at first when they “size up” potential partners.


Guess what: Grammar matters.

Believe it or not, the study says that for both men and women, grammar is the SECOND biggest thing that potential partners get judged on. Think your way with words doesn’t matter as much on Facebook? Think again. Grammar comes in second only after teeth. Apparently, both sexes are suckers for a great smile. What’s the third thing that men and women judge each other on most after teeth and grammar? Hair. No matter what do you’re sporting, members of both sexes want to see you rock those locks (or lack thereof) with confidence.

What do men and women get judged least on?

Now here’s where it gets really interesting. The study’s stats seem to go against a lot of common perceptions that get tossed around in current dating culture. Women actually judge men least on their electronics, their accents, and the cars they drive. In fact, electronics are the last thing women seem to be looking at. So boys… those expensive toys might not impress the ladies as much as you think they will. They’ll be checking out your smile and your semantics first. And women, men judge you the least on your electronics, your cars, and wait… brace yourselves… your shoes. That’s right, only 18% of men say they judge women on their shoes. (I can only imagine what Carrie Bradshaw would have to say about that!)


Do height, financial stability, and virginity actually matter? Well, according to the study, 71% of women aren’t likely to date someone shorter than them; 42% of singles wouldn’t date a virgin (women seem to care more about this at a 51% majority); and 54% of singles wouldn’t date someone with credit card debt that’s greater than $5k. While these stats do seem to hold some sway among certain singles, the study shows that they aren’t real deal breakers.


There’s good news for long-term love

97% of singles want to please you in bed more than they want to please themselves, and older singles care just as much about sex as do singles in the younger age bracket. And ladies, listen up: Nearly half of men want to meet your parents before they commit.

But wait, that’s not all. Despite what might seem to be popular belief, American singles are pretty optimistic when it comes to long-term partnerships like marriage. About 65% of men (20s-30s) want to get married, and nearly 80% of men in that age group reported wanting to have kids. Guess what else: In the “want kids” category, men and women match evenly. Moreover, the study shows that men actually fall in love faster than women do. They also believe in love at first sight more frequently than women do, and they’re likelier to approve of PDA. They’re also more likely to want to introduce their partners to their friends and family sooner. See ladies, men aren’t “all insensitive jerks.” The science behind the study proves it.

When it’s all said and done, this study shows us that men and women alike want partners who express themselves well and who aren’t too hung up on gadgets. These stats show us that many of the things we think might be deal breakers… really aren’t. In the end, it’s all about putting your best foot forward and being the best you that you can be. And don’t forget to smile. :)

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