This past Valentine’s Day, when my husband opened his present he started laughing uncontrollably and then he exclaimed, “Oh Honey! This is the best present I’ve ever received!” I was totally unprepared for his reaction, but I felt pretty darned proud of myself.
My husband is THE HARDEST person in the world to buy for. His idea of getting a gift is if you come to our house and take something home with you. In fact, I think he might actually be the person who invented re-gifting. When he does need something, he just goes right out and gets it for his little self. If I am ever able to think of something he needs first, I have to ask his assistant not to order it when he tells her to.
So, what was this great gift that made my hubby so happy? Feel free to steal the idea. I can vouch for it. It’s a proven winner and economical, too :-). Here’s the deal: over the past few months, I’ve been writing down little snippets of our conversations. I’ve been collecting the funny, sweet, off-the-cuff things we say to each other, the kind of things you always tell yourself you’ll remember, but then they’re gone. When I reread them before I printed them out, I realized it wasn’t just that what we’d said was special. These snippets of conversations were a record of certain events in our lives—a dinner we’d gone to or a night we’d spent hanging out with the dogs. These conversations were a record of an otherwise lost moment in time.
So, feel free to use this idea. It’s not just a good gift. By recording your conversations, you will be creating verbal snapshots of the little moments in your relationship that might otherwise pass you by.
Here’s some of what I recorded:
Ben and Mink
Ben: Thank you
Mink: No, thank you
Ben: No really, thank you. You took me from a miserable wretch. Actually, I am still a miserable wretch, but thank you.
Mink: One thing that bugs me about the new fridge is that the spacing on the shelves is a little weird. It’s hard to stack things. Does that make sense?
Ben: Yes. It is weird.
Mink: Thanks for agreeing with me.
Ben: I have no idea what you’re talking about.
Benjamin was throwing the ball for Milo (our Shar-pei) but he wasn’t responding, so Benjamin said, “I guess he’s just not that into me!”
Ben: Is that why people go to the bathroom in groups, because they have Groupons?
Mink: We’re going to Mexico!
Ben: Really? When?
Mink: I don’t know. Check your schedule.
Ben: You know you better check the schedule because there’s a Gilligan’s Island marathon this weekend.
Ben: Yeah. They’ve got the lost episode with the Professor and Marianne.
Mink: What happens?
Ben: They both realize that they had the same second grade teacher. It’s been in the vault all this time. This would be a defining moment in my life, seeing that episode.
MINK: Cosmo looks good in a tux and he looks good in tattered jeans.
Benjamin: You know some chickens look good in tux. They call them Fryer Tux.
MINK: (Grabbing the glasses for scotch) I’ll break out the good glasses.
BEN: Remember, we don’t use the word break when referring to the glasses.
2-14-13 Valentine’s Day
MINK: Knowing you, you filled out my Valentine’s card three weeks ago.
BEN: I did. I was just waiting to fill in the name.
Night we were coming home from Picca
BEN: 2012 is going to be the end of the world.
MINK: How do you know?
BEN: Because I know an Aztec who knows a Aztec.
One night when we were lying in bed together Jonah (our Bernese Mountain Dog) got up to take a drink of water from the toilet.
Ben: Cosmo, don’t you think you should talk to your sponsor before taking that drink?
One Valentine’s Day when I wasn’t drinking the waiter got flustered when he didn’t know if he should put water or champagne in my glass.
BEN: Don’t worry. I’m going to get her hydrated and take her home and take advantage of her.
One night when we were driving to dinner and you were telling me about one of the worst sessions you’d ever had.
BEN: I finished the session and thought it was one of the worst I’d ever done. Then the client got up off the table and said, ‘Well, that went really well, didn’t it?”
MINK: That’s why Don Miguel says you can’t take anything personally.
BEN: He just said that to hurt my feelings.