10 great suggestions for GNO that will leave everyone feeling great the morning after.
Usually, Girls' Night Out is associated with drinking and forgetting about the responsibilities that have befallen us since we became wives and parents. But it doesn't have to be a destructive or ego-driven pursuit to rejuvenate yourself and enjoy the company of like-minded women.
Let’s face it, we all like to get together with our girlfriends, kick up our heels and have a few laughs. We like to get a little silly and talk about things that men “just don’t understand”. I believe that a regular Girls’ Night Out is a critical part of a healthy woman’s social calendar. I believe it is essential to have fun, relax, and spend time with people who don’t ask anything of you than to be yourself.
When women do not honour the part of themselves that is not "mom" or "wife" they lose a sense of who they are. Many of my clients who are facing life transitions such as divorce, empty nest syndrome, and career changes, find that they lack the support of girlfriends because they didn't continue to nurture those relationships when the husband or baby came along. They become so wrapped up in the roles they are playing that they often lose a sense of their own identity. That's why it is often difficult to manage when life changes... even if the change is for the best.
It is true, however, that Girls’ Night Out (GNO) has gotten a bad rap over the years because of our behaviour. We must confess: we drink, we flirt, we (almost) cross the line.
Has that happened to you? Have you ever woke up the morning after and swore you’d never to another GNO because of the havoc you wreaked on your marriage? Do you ever feel ashamed and wonder why you ever acted that way? Do you feel upset that you now have to repair the damage by promising that you’ll never go out again?
It hardly seems fair that you have to give up the benefits of GNO because of the costs. It might not seem fair but ask yourself: Am I behaving in a way that honours all my relationships? Is this how I really want to be spending my time? Is there a way that I can enjoy my friendships and remain true to my other commitments?
Presuming that you are not trying to permanently damage your relationship with your significant other, I believe there are several healthier alternatives that will get you everything you want. Let’s change the look of Girls’ Night Out!!
Here are some suggestions:
1. Book club. Enjoy healthy appetizers and non-alcoholic beverages shared over inspirational books.
2. Spa day. Group bookings can be more affordable than individuals ones and you can talk about all that's going right in your life while you rest and relax (and laugh).
3. Tasting restaurant. Enjoy each other's company and focus on being grateful to have friends with whom you share several dinner courses over 3-4 hours.
4. Cooking class. Eat, drink and be merry!
5. Learn a new language or skill. Take a course at a community college together.
6. Belly dancing. Shake your booties in a non-threatening environment.
7. Fundraisers. Dress up, dance, and meet new people and support an important cause.
8. Jewelry parties or other home-based parties. Bring out the kid in you all as you try on new things and “spend your allowance” as the store comes to you!
9. Beach bonfire. Get out the guitars and roast a few marshmallows as you sing the night away!
10. Sports championships. Not just an option for guys, supporting a local team or checking out a special event like “Stars on Ice” is a fabulous way to get rowdy and stay out of the doghouse!
As I am writing this list, my mind is overflowing with many more. How about you? Do you have a great idea for trouble-free, guilt-free Girls’ Night Out? Please share in the comments below or email me at Lisa@LisaLPayne.com. Now, let’s get out there and have some fun, ladies, and remember to be grateful for every second!
Yours in possibility,
PS – If you find yourself wanting to escape your marriage or your parenting responsibilities, it may be time for a fresh start. Check out my coaching programs at http://LisaLPayne.com.