I thought I had it all under control. I had just enough time to do this, that and the other including work, relationships, family and self-care. So how did I get out of whack again? Because balance is a moving target.
As a therapist well versed in topics related to marriage, relationship and emotional health, I often work with people around this concept, whether it impacts them individually or in their relationships. I talk about things like taking personal inventories, about what's most important, communicating to each other about needs and staying as present and mindful as possible through it all.
As a career woman, mom, wife, friend, athlete and whatever other hats I rotate on and off my head, this topic has certainly come up in my life frequently. When it does I step back, make a few lists, think and reconfigure. Then things settle back in, I feel content, fulfilled and am present for those around me. Then...BAM...what the...
Recently, I became aware that someone close to me has been casually mentioning to others "How busy Lisa is..." At first I was irritated by this as I was sure that this couldn't possibly be the case! I know so much about this, I work with people around this very issue, I thought I was so keenly in tune with myself! Apparently...not so much.
Sometime it takes others to notice what you can't see.
So now here I am contemplating my relationship with life balance again and making decisions - once again - around what needs to be cut. As much as I love my work and am grateful to have a busy private practice and write therapy workbooks, I have a tendency to take on too much and drive myself to...somewhere. Where am I going anyway? I jest but I think it's a good question to ask yourself if you find yourself struggling with the "moving target" of balance.
There is no magic formula because change and flux in life is constant. You may think you have it all figured out but then life happens (projects taking longer than you anticipated, your child being home sick putting a halt to your work life, etc.) can upset your whole little pretty apple cart.
And that's ok.
This therapist is taking these important lessons to heart and accepting that balance is a moving target. It is to be predicted that we all occasionally need a reset, a re-assessment and a do-over. At the end of the day, if you're doing the best you can, you're doing just great!