The Worst Time to Fight

By Lisa Hayes. Posted on Mar 29th 2011.

The worst time to fight is when you're angry, especially if you want to get your way.

That’s right. I said you can in fact deal with conflict from a positive place. In fact, it’s the only place worth being in conflict. Let’s face it we don’t always see eye to eye and we don’t always get along perfectly. However, sliding into problem solving mode, expecting a win/win solution, feeling optimistic and curious about how it will all work out is the easiest approach.

Curiosity is way better then anger, if you are looking to get your way.

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