The question of the day, “Will I have any luck on Match.com?” This question is interchangeable with any dating site of your choice. At least six people I know will read this article this week and think I was writing about a conversation with them. I get that question so often, I’m thinking about writing a brochure, keeping them in my purse, and just handing them out when the subject comes up.
Part of the reason I get asked the question so often is because I wrote a book on relationships and I’m a relationship coach. The other reason is, I met my beloved on Match. Ask anyone who knows me. My husband is not the first person I met on an online dating site. Obviously, the other’s weren’t exactly keepers. Some were straight out of horror thriller movies. Some were “diamonds in the rough”.
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Some were really nice guys, that just weren’t a really nice fit. Sure some magical very aligned people can meet the love of their lives out of the clear blue, online, without having to do a darn thing. I was my husband’s first “match”. He is a manifesting rock star. For that we are both thankful! However, for most people, for online dating to work, you have to work it. Not in the drudgery, punching a clock, man this sucks, kind of way. Huna philosophy says, energy flows where attention goes.
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That’s the deal. If you want to be successful with online dating or anything else, you gotta flow it some energy, give it some love. You have to be willing to play the game. You have to put on the attitude that you love dating, and this is going to be the coolest thing ever. And yes, you might actually have to take a little action beyond posting your profile and waiting for your knight on a white horse to show up. I used to make an event of “man shopping”. I loved having password protected access to the catalog of all the eligible men in my area. Man shopping is way better then shoe shopping, or even perfume shopping, which is my favorite. More evenings then I care to count were spent with fun friends and a couple bottles of wine, indulging in the joy of man shopping. No drudgery there. Just fun, excitement, and a good dose of levity.
Here’s a little tid bit about me meeting David. I winked at him first. Yes, I took inspired action. Thank the heavens above! I didn’t meet his match criteria, so I wouldn’t have even come up on his list. It was squarely on me to do it and I did. Yes, I sent out maybe hundreds of winks over the months. However, that one landed right where it belonged and the rest is happy history. So, online dating works, if you are willing to work with it. I am using the word, work, very lightly. Light is probably the key concept. Seriously, lighten up. Have fun. Do the deal. You absolutely have to be willing to date for the sheer fun and thrill of it. Are are a catch. You are beautiful. Gosh darn it, people like you... Get out there, get online, and let your fingers do the shopping!