I hear it from my clients all the time. "I don’t want to do online dating again. I had a terrible experience with that a couple of years ago." or "I tried that. Nothing but losers. I swear."
For me, the common denominator in all my bad experiences with online dating was me. There are a lot of great guys dating online. I managed to get my act together and attract one. I have male clients who are in the online dating scene right now that would be a great catch for any woman. However, if you’re unhealthy, if you are sad and lonely, if you’re desperate, online dating is a dangerous place to be doing business. In fact, if you’re unhealthy, and your dating, you are putting yourself and others at risk, no matter how you’re meeting people.
Dating is always a process. It’s a numbers game. However, you can’t date enough people to find “the one,” if you aren’t the person you want to be. One of the smartest things I ever did was quit online dating. I quit dating all together, and took the time I needed to heal my heart and manage my issues. The absolute smartest thing I ever did was deciding not to give up on online dating, and get myself back out there when the time was right. If I’d been jaded by all my bad experiences, I would have never met my husband.
Online dating wasn’t the problem. I was. The cool thing about owning your problem is, then and only then, can you fix it.
Lisa Hayes is a Relationship Coach and Author of How to Escape from Relationship Hell and the Passion Plan. She is also co-founder of Good Vibe Coaching Academy, specializing in LOA Coach training. To get Lisa's FREE Audio, "How to Talk to a Man" Click here.