When Is It Time To Start Dating Again

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When Is It Time To Start Dating Again
Falling in love with you, will make it more likely the RIGHT person can fall in love with you too.
Falling in love with you, will make it more likely the RIGHT person can fall in love with you too.

One of the questions I often get is when is it time to start dating again after a break up or divorce. There are a lot of standard formula’s to answer that question and honestly I have a standard answer or two, I throw out at times.
However, we all know there isn’t really a one size fits all answer. Everyone is different.

One of the questions I often get is when is it time to start dating again after a break up or divorce. There are a lot of standard formula’s to answer that question and honestly I have a standard answer or two, I throw out at times.
However, we all know there isn’t really a one size fits all answer. Everyone is different.

That said, there is an answer, and although it’s not a specific period of time, it’s very measurable and very important. The simple answer is, it’s never a good time to be in the dating game, if you aren’t at the top of your self esteem and self love game. I’ve had clients who experienced painful divorces who were able to get their act together, develop a strong sense of self worth, treat themselves lovingly and date with great success in a matter of weeks.

I personally have suffered the effects of NOT getting my self worth in a clean place before hitting the market and attracting a reflection of my less then perfect self worth in the form of relationships that flat out sucked. For a lot of years I didn’t feel right with my money stuff. I felt a little desperate, a little insecure around income, a little unsteady. Not too surprisingly I attracted men who couldn’t hold a job, even though I was usually working two or three. The worse my self esteem was the more dangerous the relationships got.

It doesn’t take rocket science to see how this works. If you think your over weight, even by a little you are much more likely to settle for someone less then perfect when they come along and show you some attention. If you think you aren’t as smart as other people, you aren’t likely to feel worthy of the affection of a very intelligent partner. If you think your finances are shaky and you feel self conscious about that, it will be hard to start a real relationship with a wealthy partner. You simply don’t feel worthy.

So, it’s easy to see why it’s worth getting your self love house in order is step one before dating. It’s also easy to see how any investment you make in dialing that down is likely to pay dividends in attracting a much more attractive mate. If you want a 100% great person in your life, you have to believe 100% that you are worthy of that on every level. Otherwise it’s too easy to compromise and settle.

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