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The Great I AM

There are a lot of varying view points out there about affirmations. Do they work? Are they a waste? Do they possibly even make things worse? Honestly, I think they work if you think they will. However a lot of people don’t. That said, I am a big fan of “I am” affirmations.

An “I am” statement used as an affirmation is very simple. The subconscious is trained to respond to the words I am. We think them all the time. Those words form the very construct of our self identity. I am fat. I am lovable. I am successful. I am lonely. Each of those statements are very powerful and absolute. We are what we think we are. The minute an “I am” statement is activated, it becomes the truth, at least inside, and most likely outside also.

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So, how do you use “I am” affirmations to attract the relationship of your dreams?

1. Pick the top four qualities you want in a mate.
2. Then use “I am” affirmations to activate those vibrations in you.

Want a mate that has money? How about Using the affirmation, “I am very successful”? When you begin to see yourself as a success you will attract from that place and be much more likely to attract a successful partner.

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Want a mate that is spiritual? Try the “I am” affirmation “I am at one with The Divine and living in peace”. It’s pretty easy to see what type of mate you’d attract from that place.

Bottom line, whatever you are wanting to attract in another has to be active in your vibration first. So, using any tool to create that in yourself first is the first step to the last first date and the road to happily ever after. I am affirmations are easy, free, and at your disposal at any time. So -- the question of the day is, who are you???

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Lisa Hayes

Relationship Coach

Many, Many Blessings, Lisa Hayes www.escapefromrelationshiphell.com

Location: Olympia, WA
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Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Domestic Abuse, Infidelity
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