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Do I Have To Do Online Dating?


I've been single for more than a year now. About six months ago I joined a couple of dating sites.

Dear Lisa,

I've been single for more than a year now. About six months ago I joined a couple of dating sites. I've had a few dates, but nothing that was particularly interesting. 

I have to be honest, I don't like online dating, but everyone says I need to do it. I just don't feel like it's for me. I realize that's the way most people meet each other these days, but I have some resistance. So, I'm wondering what I can do to make my online dating more fun and work better. Do you have any advice?

Sarah in Alberta

Dear Sarah,

I do have some advice. Take your profiles down. Stop online dating.

Believe it or not, there was dating before I'm certainly not opposed to online dating. In fact, I'm a fan. That's how I met my husband. However, in order to get great results it has to be a great experience and if you're flowing resistance to online dating, don't do it.

Recent studies show 30% of newly married couples met through online dating. That means 70% didn't. So statistically, it's certainly not a requirement. Maybe it improves your odds, but it isn't the only way to meet your mate.

Go live your life. Get out of the house and do things you love. When you are doing the kinds of things you love, you can't help but meet people who love the same things. You'll be happier and have a more exciting life, with or without a man in it. Basically what I'm saying is take yourself on some really great dates. Chances are pretty high while you're doing it you'll meet some really great people.

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