I knew the relationship was unhealthy and I knew I was scared for my life and the lives of those I loved. However, I would have denied being abused. That denial in itself was insanity but insanity is a part of an abuse cycle.
It is dangerous and sometimes deadly to minimize abusive behavior. Abuse comes in many forms that don't involve physical violence and physical abuse comes in many forms that don't involve being hit. A rational, clear thinking person can see that, however, when you're being abused, you lose your ability to think clearly pretty quickly.
Webster defines abuse as the use or treatment of something in a way that causes damage. That's broad because abuse comes in lots of forms. If you're asking yourself the question, "Am I being abused?" the answer is quite likely yes. The question itself is an indicator that something is terribly wrong. If you are in that situation, it's important to remember that being abused changes the way you think because you are in some kind of survival mode. Survival thinking is rarely rational.
Abuse creates fear and when all else fails, let that be your compass point. If you are afraid, get help or get out.
Lisa Hayes is a Relationship Coach and Author of How to Escape from Relationship Hell and the Passion Plan. She is also co-founder of Good Vibe Coaching Academy, specializing in LOA Coach training. To get Lisa's FREE Audio, "How to Talk to a Man" Click here.