5 Rules for Great First Dates


5 Rules for Great First Dates
Surviving a first date is possible.
Tips for how to make sure your first date isn't your last date.

2. Talk less, listen more.  A first date is not a job interview. You shouldn't be selling yourself or any of your great qualities on your first date. I'm sure you think you aren’t doing that. However, it can come off that way unconsciously very easily.  So, make it a point to ask a lot of questions, and do a lot more listening than you do talking.

3. Avoid interviewing your date.  While your job is to ask more questions and listen more, avoid asking the kind of questions that might make a person feel like they are being interviewed.  We all know the hot button questions to avoid on a first date, and yet I'm amazed how often first date conversation drifts to marriage, kids, and ex’s anyway. Don't do it. Keep the conversation, engaging.  It's not an inquisition.

4. Be the kind of woman a man can picture taking home to mom.  Basically, be classy, not sexy on a first date.  I know all of this might sound super obvious, but when you’re nervous, it's easy to let some obvious things slip. Be appropriate. Use your best manners. Keep your drinking to a minimum. Watch your language. Behave in a way that leaves you free and clear of any cringe worthy moments you might regret.

5. Be your own good time.  Don't outsource your feel good. Don't depend on your date or anyone else to show you a nice evening. You decide how you want to feel, and bring that to the date rather than waiting for someone else to deliver it. No one can actually make you feel confident, appreciated, or excited. So, if you want those things, bring them yourself. A woman who brings her own good time is very pleasant to be around.  An easy smile is the best cosmetic.

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