Tips for how to make sure your first date isn't your last date.
I've been on a lot of first dates lately. Occasionally, I'm going on a second or third. But to be frank, I'm beginning to feel like something is terribly wrong with me. Sometimes I can tell the date isn't exactly a hit, but even when I think we’re having a great time, I rarely hear from the guy for a follow-up date.
I used to feel really confident. I'm not going to bother listing all my great traits here. However, I've got some. I've got friends who think I'm fun to be around. So, I can't figure out how I'm consistently bombing these first dates.
Can you help me figure out where I'm going wrong?
First of all, I'd like to say, good for you, for getting out there. Dating is a courageous act. To keep doing it when you feel like you're not doing well, is down right brave! Secondly, I'd prefer not to focus on what's going wrong, because it's anyone's guess. Without a hidden camera and a microphone at this point, we might never know. Not to mention, you might be doing everything right, but now that you've come to expect a less than perfect result, that’s what you're getting.
Below are five first date rules. These rules can probably be modified and applied in your life generally for being very likable and attractive on dates or anywhere else. These are easy tweaks that should make dating easier, and more fun, no matter what the outcome.
1. Ease up on the expectations by playing a different game. Ask yourself a question. Why are you on the marketing dating right now? Is it because you’re lonely. Is it because your clock is ticking and you’re husband shopping? Is it because you feel like you “should” be in a relationship?
The answer to that question should be, “I’m dating because I really dig men and I’m having a blast.” Setting the intention to date for fun, allows you to be in the present moment with a guy and enjoy his company without worrying about what will or won’t happen next. Dating is always a numbers game. Most people date many, many people before finding “the one”. So, you may as well set your compass for fun and enjoy the process. Dating for dating sake needs to be enjoyable. If you can’t dial in on dating as a good time, you probably need to take a break for awhile. Keep reading...
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