4 Matchmaking Styles…Which is Right for You?

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 4 Matchmaking Styles…Which is Right for You?
Confused about how to find a matchmaker to work with? Here is where to start.

You’re interested in finding a Matchmaker to work with, but you are unsure of how to find one that is the right match for you? Here is some help—

The best way to choose a matchmaker is the same way you would choose any other professional in your life—whether it’s a doctor, lawyer, or accountant. You look to find a highly reputable professional who specializes in the type of person you are.

 

Everyone has a personal style, just like every matchmaker has a distinct way that they work with their clients. The beauty of this is that no matter your personality, there is a matchmaker out there who can work with you in a way that is comfortable and meets your needs.

After coaching and working with hundreds of matchmakers at the Matchmaking Institute, I have found that most fall into four main match styles. None of them have a higher success rate than the other, they are simply different approaches to the job based on who that particular matchmaker is and the clientele they cater to.


As you read through the styles, keep in mind that the better you know yourself, the more easily you will recognize a matchmaking style that will work best for you.


1. Nurturing- Matchmakers with a nurturing approach are great listeners. They are sure to make you feel great about yourself from the first getting to know you meeting through every date and feedback conference that follows.  They provide kindly phrased, helpful advice to make it easier for you to open up and feel cared for throughout the dating process. If you are looking to work with someone who will approach you in a kind, gentle, and encouraging manner, than this style is one to look at for sure. 

Example: Beth Mandell, the Director of Matchmaking for VIP Life, is a perfect nurturer. She works hard to create a comfortable and safe environment for our clients. Beth is very aware that life and dating can be hard enough as it is, so she works hard to be sure that our clients to feel at ease, and are fee to be themselves.

2. Direct- Are you a busy --let’s get this done-- type of person?  Do you like to know exactly what is on the table, and make fairly quick decisions with the input of a professional?  If so, you may feel most comfortable working with a matchmaker who doesn’t adorn the facts, presents information to you in a timely, honest manner, and seems to know immediately who to set you up with. 

Example: Patti Stanger, of Millionaire Matchmaker, is a great example of a direct matchmaker. She tells it like it is, and is not shy to cut straight to the point. Patti wants her clients to put their best foot forward, and demands attention to detail. She knows that her clients are busy, and works efficiently to get the job done.

 

Article contributed by

Lisa Clampitt

Matchmaker

Lisa Clampitt, LMSW, CMM

President, Matchmaking Institute and VIP Life

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LMSWCC, MSW
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