Learn how to speak up for yourself and use your voice, just by looking at the lines on your hand.
When people tell me they aren't very good at speaking up during a difficult situation or using their voice to speak their truth, I remind them that you can't be good at something until you practice it on a regular basis. None of us are good right out of the gate when we're venturing into something new, and certainly when it involves speaking to another person about a difficult situation.
Nonetheless, you've been gifted with a voice to use and it serves you to use it, especially during times when you're being treated poorly, doubting your confidence, swayed to go in a direction you're not in agreement with, or even needing to end a personal and/or professional relationship when it's run its course.
Over the years, friends and clients have expressed to me that they wish it was as easy for them—as it appears to be for me, in their eyes—when I share with them the language to speak their truth with another person from a place of confidence, compassion and with a peaceful heart.
With that said, I want you to know that it's not always easy for me to say what's on my mind when I'm in conflict with someone in my life, personally or professionally. For years, I've worked really hard to summon up the courage to open my mouth during some of the scariest times in my life. And, along the way, I fumbled a lot. So much so that I had to say on more occasions then I can count, "I need a do-over. That didn't come out the right way Please give me the do-over."
When I got the dopover and it came out right ... wow, it was an empowering moment. It's that moment I took with me into my next difficult situation, and the next and the next, until I had enough experience under my belt that I felt pretty good at saying what I needed to say—without falling all over myself, pissing someone off, or being dismissed as though my words had no significance. Please don't mistake that with me not still feeling nervous beforehand, because I often do.
My ability and willingness to speak up during challenging times has gotten stronger over the years, and I contribute that not just to ongoing practice, but also to the day I had my first hand analysis; it gave me deeper insight into myself and why I might hesitate to speak up during any appropriate moment.
Now that I'm a certified Hand Analyst, I'd like to share with you some markings that can show up in your hands that can contribute to your fears, challenges or doubts about speaking up and expressing your truth with people in your life:
- Desire pollution: People with this marking are confused about what they want. They will take on the wants and desires of another person; therefore, it leaves them with the challenge of speaking up for their own desires.
- Armoring on the heart line: This is someone protecting themselves. Perhaps a deep hurt has taken place in the past. He or she may wonder, should I share myself? Is it safe to trust?
- Hermit heart line: People with this heart line need to be sure they understand their feelings before they can easily express them. So it can take a while for them to speak up.
- Romantic idealist heart line: Someone with this heart line will want to make sure what they say doesn't hurt someone else's feelings and will often hold back if they can't find the perfect words to express what they are feeling so they aren't misunderstood. This includes fear of rejection markings, such as a white spot showing up on the heart line. No one likes to be rejected so one way to avoid that is to hide out by not revealing your most authentic self to others.
- Weak pinky finger: Part of the communication zone of the hand. When this finger is weak, shows up on the hand print as crooked or parts missing, people struggle with their ability to express themselves in various aspects of their lives, both personally and professionally. The missing lower portion of a printed pinky indicates great difficulty expressing one's most intense feelings and a crooked upper zone indicates that the person has an inaccurate sense of self.
- Weak lower thumb: This is the voice chakra zone. There are also other markings that can keep you from speaking up and using that beautiful voice of yours.
- Reclaiming your power
- Communication struggles
- Establishing boundaries
This list does not exhaust the possibilities, but when I see any of these on clients' live hands or their handprints, it helps me support them in a more exacting way, so we get to the heart of the matter as quickly as possible, helping them experience the breakthroughs and changes they are wanting.
No matter what your hands have to share about you, what I know for sure is this: you cause yourself great suffering by remaining silent. Your voice exists so you can be heard. I believe, in my heart of hearts, that you will better serve yourself and others when you are willing to practice speaking up and expressing your truth over and over again.
If you need support with this then let's start with a hand analysis and discover what's innately keeping you quiet.
Linda Salazar, founder of Your Heart Is In Your Hands, is a relationship coach, author, speaker and media personality working with smart, proactive, spiritually open women who are ready for remarkable relationships. Experiencing heartbreak? Struggling to find a relationship that makes your heart sing? Download Linda's free report to discover your innate relationship style. Contact Linda here.